To All the Mommies Out There Who Write About the Difficulties of Mommyhood,
Today, I took a trip to Old Navy. While checking out at the cashier, I saw a pregnant mom with two young girls, probably 2 and 4. The 4-year-old was wandering, but mostly staying by her mom's side; the 2-year-old was repeatedly trying to make a break for the door, car keys in hand. I gave the mom an understanding smile, trying to at least acknowledge the cuteness of the situation.
When I got out to my car and put my bags away, I saw her at the back of her SUV, the rear door standing wide. I started my car and began to drive out of the parking lot, passing her and her car on my left. She had the 2-year-old on her hip and they were looking into the back and pointing at something. Just as I began to wonder where the other daughter was, I noticed the girl on my right side, across the street from her mother, beginning to walk in front of my car without giving so much as a glance. Quickly I put on the brakes and allowed her to cross, my heart beating a little faster in the process.
There was a time, not too long ago, when I would have rolled my eyes, glared at the mom, and wondered why in the hell she couldn't keep track of her kids better, instead of letting them run through the streets without a care. I mean, seriously, what kind of woman would do that?
But now, after getting to know you all, and reading your stories, and getting a better sense of what motherhood really is, I didn't think that at all. Instead, I felt bad for a woman suffering through the exhausting effects of pregnancy, so frazzled and stretched thin that her daughter's safety was endangered more than it should have been. I don't think she was a bad person - I think she was doing her best, and I'm sorry, for her sake, that she was having such an obviously tough day.
I hope no one ever looks at me when I'm giving as much of myself as I can to my kids, and thinks, "What a horrible mother - she can't even keep her eyes on her kids." But I know already that some people will. I'm just glad I'm not one of those people anymore.
So thank you, for teaching me compassion.
For the rest of you: What have the bloggers you read taught you lately?