When we talk about doing group work with our students, there's an important concept we try to get them to understand:
"None of us has all of the skills. All of us have some of the skills."
It's the foundation for understanding multiple abilities orientations, this acknowledgment that while none of the kids is perfect at everything, all of the kids have something to contribute.
I recently had the opportunity to go to brunch and enjoy a lazy afternoon hanging out with Lady M. We were talking about a variety of people we know and situations they are / have been in over the past year or so. And she said something about how pretty much all situations are more complicated than people realize, and it's never quite as cut-and-dry when it comes to who's at fault as people think. I completely agree, and I've known it to be true from personal experience as well. And so I said, thinking of the aforementioned concept:
"None of us has all of the blame. All of us have some of the blame."
In all the situations I can think of in my own life, at least, it's completely true. And probably something more people need to keep in mind more often when faulting others.