tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30079493.post5158044702704471878..comments2023-09-06T06:48:34.820-07:00Comments on Life: The Ongoing Education: Rented Space: JealousyLarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04389047861929002263noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30079493.post-20182452379066584282008-08-24T10:57:00.000-07:002008-08-24T10:57:00.000-07:00(((Hugs))) you are not alone. I have not words of...(((Hugs))) you are not alone. I have not words of wisdom. Only understand and feel you. Our tears are the same.Teachahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08067893917869707719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30079493.post-90397531431158909232008-08-19T14:33:00.000-07:002008-08-19T14:33:00.000-07:00First - don't beat yourself up for feeling jealous...First - don't beat yourself up for feeling jealous - it's understandable in the situation. My two closest friends now have children and it does give me real pangs at times. and I'd definitely echo the advice about finding a time to talk to your friend about how you feel. <BR/> <BR/>One things that really helps me is to view what I'm doing now as preparation for being in the situation I want to beAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30079493.post-87391792816157538912008-08-04T13:30:00.000-07:002008-08-04T13:30:00.000-07:00My first question was how you came to reach the ag...My first question was how you came to reach the age of 26 without ever having <I>any</I> kind of intimate connection with someone else. I don't mean that to sound perjorative, it's just something I found very unusual. But it's only important if it's contributing to the underlying problem, and I can't tell if you think it is or isn't.<BR/><BR/>Absent actual sociopathy, I think we <I>all</I> wantMojohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03498213932233245032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30079493.post-16665650491886881222008-08-03T19:06:00.000-07:002008-08-03T19:06:00.000-07:00You seem really sweet. As others have written, I d...You seem really sweet. As others have written, I don't think you need to feel bad about being jealous: anybody in a similar situation would feel the same. One can't prevent any feeling, good or bad; what makes a person is how she deals with those feelings. Writing about them, as you have, is probably a good method. And as others have suggested, once your friend recovers, a conversation with her Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30079493.post-74849773211966080432008-08-03T16:57:00.000-07:002008-08-03T16:57:00.000-07:00I think we can be happy for other people and still...I think we can be happy for other people and still be envious of what they have. <BR/>I cannot even imagine how difficult this is for you. I do know that your brother and friend are so very lucky to have you helping them with the new baby. <BR/>it is an emotional time for everyone and i think it shows great maturity , which my mother does not possess btw, to put their needs first at the moment. <moplanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16998309937928231527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30079493.post-1120025281354279122008-08-03T11:44:00.000-07:002008-08-03T11:44:00.000-07:00Oh, sweetie. I KNOW that boat you are in right now...Oh, sweetie. I KNOW that boat you are in right now, and I know it well. <BR/><BR/>I can't offer the reassurances that the other wise women on this blog can. Because there are no guarantees. While that might not necessarily seem supportive in the sense that life is all rainbows and flowers, it is reality.<BR/><BR/>Where I do think these fine women strike the nail on the head are when they say you Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30079493.post-73085858695542210332008-08-03T10:52:00.000-07:002008-08-03T10:52:00.000-07:00I sure with I had the fix-it magic wand. I'm so so...I sure with I had the fix-it magic wand. I'm so sorry that your jealousy is stealing some of the happiness in your life. It's hard to be happy for others when they have the things, and not "things", but the things that are toted as most important in life, that you so desperately want. It's not wrong for you to feel that way. <BR/><BR/>I had a miscarriage just as my best friend gave birth to herAnissa Mayhewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01637783862251849189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30079493.post-79460879444170766792008-08-03T05:23:00.000-07:002008-08-03T05:23:00.000-07:00Big hug for you... you are clearly a kind, loving ...Big hug for you... you are clearly a kind, loving person who is very self-aware and just happens to be having a very difficult time at the moment.<BR/><BR/>So, your best friend became your sister-in-law, eh? As you said, I'm sure you're very happy for them, but you almost lost someone there, didn't you? She was your best friend, the person you should have been able to discuss your new Cate Subrosahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11371172824707301749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30079493.post-51671551178302328662008-08-02T22:20:00.000-07:002008-08-02T22:20:00.000-07:00I so understand this. Do the work you want to do o...I so understand this. Do the work you want to do on you and all of this will fall into placeflutterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11828689769747130419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30079493.post-13717745961997208652008-08-02T22:01:00.000-07:002008-08-02T22:01:00.000-07:00From the blog renter:Thank you all so much. I do ...From the blog renter:<BR/><BR/>Thank you all so much. I do think that I'm already dealing with some depression and anxiety, and you're right, bettejo... I am not happy with who I am right now.<BR/><BR/>bejewell, I have considered counseling. I'm not really sure how to go about it or who to see, but I definitely think I do need some help.<BR/><BR/>jamimiami, totally not offended by the religiousanonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12034415968274707635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30079493.post-81530359020866998052008-08-02T20:54:00.000-07:002008-08-02T20:54:00.000-07:00In these situations I think it is important to liv...In these situations I think it is important to live in the moment and enjoy the blessing of life in relation to the baby. Then when your visit is over, take some time to write the good things in your life and what you are grateful for. Then, if finding things to be thankful for is hard, maybe talk to a professional counselor. Even one or two sessions can really help with perspective.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30079493.post-71516333536677811012008-08-02T20:50:00.000-07:002008-08-02T20:50:00.000-07:00I haven't been in your exact position, although I ...I haven't been in your exact position, although I have had similar feelings. All three of the previous commenter's are correct. I found myself from an early age wanting to be married and be a mother. One of my youngest sisters almost got married before me. As stupid as some may think, I had really tried to be everything I thought I needed to be for Mr. Right to find me. What I found, was that I Mindful Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13985684246206134494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30079493.post-79488751648110473542008-08-02T20:17:00.000-07:002008-08-02T20:17:00.000-07:00That is rough. But you know what? Someday, you'r...That is rough. But you know what? Someday, you're going to meet the right person, and you're going to end up happy, just like your brother and best friend are. Everything's going to work out just fine, as long as you're not too busy dwelling on your jealousy to see what's right in front of you. <BR/><BR/>As hard as it may be, relax. Stop worrying about it, be as happy as you can be with whatgnomesquehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18017416878726510107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30079493.post-60488353666537829222008-08-02T20:01:00.000-07:002008-08-02T20:01:00.000-07:00I agree with Bettejo. We must make ourselves happy...I agree with Bettejo. We must make ourselves happy before we venture on to other things. I dont have words of wisdom for you. All I have is what my parents always told me & what I tell my own kids: God only gives us what we can handle. I hope I am not offending you with the religious reference. I believe that everything happens to us at the time we are ready to accept them and be able to dealAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30079493.post-26421834589058049362008-08-02T20:00:00.000-07:002008-08-02T20:00:00.000-07:00We all have jealous feelings about friends and lov...We all have jealous feelings about friends and loved ones sometimes - that's part of being human (I think Gore Vidal said once "Every time a friend succeeds, I die a little). <BR/><BR/>But the crying jags and the fact that you seem to have been feeling this way for a while seem to suggest that you might benefit from a counseling session or two. Have you considered that? I'm almost afriad to Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30079493.post-5660463583171810972008-08-02T19:47:00.000-07:002008-08-02T19:47:00.000-07:00I have never been in your specific situation. But...I have never been in your specific situation. But I do remember a time in my life when all I wanted was someone to love me, I wanted to build a life around a man and the family we would create. But I found that I wanted it so badly that I tried too hard, did not choose wisely and held on too tightly.<BR/><BR/>Of course you want what they have, it's a wonderful thing. But I wonder if you are BetteJohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11650981249204116251noreply@blogger.com