This morning (by which I mean about 1pm), a group of friends and I went to a pancake house for brunch. Sitting at the table, they were all happily chatting, and I was sitting in a depressed funk staring off into space. And suddenly there I go again, tears streaming down my face. I realize that conversation has halted and everyone is staring at me. Tali asks if I want to go outside, but I’m still trying to just calm down without making a scene. But no, I have to walk quickly out of the restaurant, and start crying out front. Tali followed me out, and hugged me tightly, just holding me as I wept. And I told her, “It just feels like I’ll never be normal again!” She told me, “You will. There is another side. You’ll get there.” But sometimes, I still wonder… Will I?
Tense Teacher had a fun meme on her site a while back, and I decided to steal it (because we all know I don’t wait to be tagged). However, it’s a really long meme, so I’ll be doing it in chunks. Here we go with PART ONE: YOU AND YOUR LIFE
1. Were any other names considered for you at birth?
My name and my sister’s name are a perfect anagram of my parents’ names. (That means if you take the letters of my parents’ names, and you mix them all up, you can make my sister’s and my names. For those who don’t know what an anagram is.) So basically, after they had my sister, there were four letters left over. They had two pretty reasonable choices for girls’ names, but the only boys’ name they could come up with was really awful. It’s good I wasn’t a boy.
2. How old will you be this year?
I will be 25 in June. I always expected to be married when I was 25. Clearly that won’t happen now.
3. What is your astrological sign?
I’m a Gemini – the twin.
I’m a Gemini – the twin.
4. Do you check your horoscopes regularly, and do you believe in them?
I don’t. I used to more often, because it’s amusing sometimes. I find it really amusing both when they turn out to be really accurate and when they turn out to be really inaccurate. When they fall somewhere in the middle (which is most of the time), I find them boring.
I have very opposing character traits that often show up in tandem with each other. It makes me exciting at parties!
6. With whom are you compatible?
People who are willing to put up with me and my insanity. Which star sign is that?
7. In what kind of house do you live?
A non-existent one – I live in an apartment. It’s somewhat small, but I call it cozy.
8. With whom do you live?
9. How is your bedroom decorated?
Er… It’s really not. There’s a mirror on the wall, but that’s it, and it’s more functional than decorative.
10. Do you have posters on the walls?
Nope. I figure the mirror fills that niche. It’s like a constantly-updating poster of moi. I think that’s probably why I don’t think of it as decorative.
11. Are your parents still together?
12. So what kind of person are you, in the good ways?
Urg. I hate these questions, mostly because I don’t like myself much. I’m nice?
I’m insecure, melodramatic, self-centered, selfish, immature, and perhaps a bit overly self-critical.
14. In what ways do you annoy people?
Every single answer to #13. And probably some others I can’t think of right now. Oh, wait, I’ve been accused of being conceited, cold, standoffish, and a bitch. I bet people find those traits annoying, too.
15. What are your strengths?
I’m really good at pointing out my flaws.
16. What are your weaknesses?
Um, see #13.
17. Are you easily depressed?
18. What makes you depressed?
Most things since mid-October.
19. Are you easily paranoid?
Who wants to know?
20. What is your current mood?
Very tired, but I’m not sure that’s a mood. Pretty down, honestly. It hasn't been a great day.
Hrm, I have a fair number of good, close friends. Tali, of course. Lady M is an amazing friend. Makayla’s Mommy, even though we don’t talk much these days. Tpiggy is amazingly supportive, as is Natalie, Ladybug, and the Ex. The Eggman (who’s my date to the Ball – yay!). OP, Charcoal, and Dre in my school program. And, of couse, J. Still.
22. Who are your favorite friends to talk with when you are upset?
[More to come in future installments.]
Day 21 of SaBloBoMo: The Age of Innocence by Edith Wharton
[There are some spoilers here – if you don’t know the story already, and you might want to read and be surprised, don’t read my thoughts on the book.]
Talk about a heartbreaking love story. I love Edith Wharton’s writing in general, but this story in particular just gets me in a way few others ever have (and probably ever will). It is tragic, and because of that, it strikes a real chord of truth. It is the story of a love that just couldn’t be, and the sacrifices that sort of love demands. And it is the story of honor, and responsibility, and the sacrifices those demand. The ending gets me every time:
“[She was] the woman you’d have chucked everything for: only you didn’t. … But mother said –”
“Yes: the day before she died. It was when she sent for me alone – you remember? She said she knew we were safe with you, and always would be, because once, when she asked you to, you’d given up the thing you most wanted.”
And he never saw her again. Not even years later, when he could have. He gave her up and never looked back.
I guess that’s love in the real world.